Just because I can do it, doesn’t mean you’re entitled to it.

And now for a rant…

This is somewhat personal, but written for so many of those good people who offer to help others.

If you choose to take offense to this post, that can’t be helped and you are missing the point.

For a long time now, I’ve noticed a trend where if someone finds out that you have psychic abilities, they will expect you to give them a reading for free. If you’re a healer, they will ask for healing or a clearing. Maybe they want you to tell them how their relationship with someone they are interested in will work out or if it will happen.

Many expect you to drop everything you’re doing and respond. Rarely will they ever ask if you’re busy or if you even mind.

I’ve seen some people become offended, hostile and outrage if you tell them that if they want something deeper, some kind of exchange will need to take place. As most don’t have something they want to barter, money is often the most common option.

I might be a healer (and I know I am good at it) but that doesn’t mean I sit around all day waiting for people to ask me for help.

Yes, I’ve got some unique abilities (as many will attest to) but regardless of what people think, it takes energy and work to get results. I don’t do cold readings. I actually do the work that’s required to see what is going on and do what can be done to remove the issues.

What most don’t seem to get is that you’re not paying for my abilities; you are paying for my time and skills. I don’t actually charge for being able to heal someone or remove demonic beings or close portals. I charge for the time it takes to do so, the resources that are used and the decades of experience and knowledge that were hard gained and extremely rare.

For three decades I’ve helped hundreds of people for free. Few ever bothered to even say thanks though they had no issues in asking for more help when they needed it.

To those who feel self-entitled, I say move right along and see if someone else will do what I can do for free. To expect me to always be there answering questions, clearing attacks and recommending what you need to do is disrespectful of my time. It’s disrespectful of anyone’s time.

People’s skills aren’t free, you know?

You wouldn’t go to a mechanic and say: I hear you’re great with fixing cars. Fix mine for nothing. You wouldn’t ask a doctor to provide his services and medication for free.

Nothing is free. There must be some kind of exchange. In the case of spiritual healing, this is very important as I’ve found that those who do give something, anything , in return, benefit greatly. And to be fair, there are a few who do give in return, and that opens the door to receiving more even more healing back.

The exchange does not need to be money. It can be support, services, helping someone or even the intention of doing so.

Personally, I would love to do healing as my living, but current attitudes make that almost impossible, at least for genuinely gifted people. Ironically, people will spend hundreds of dollars on cold readers and scam artists who are extremely generic in what they do.

Personally, I never expect anything for free. I will always give back more than I take. I will always remember those who have helped me and show my gratitude. If you do me a favour, I will remember it for lifetimes.

If I’m working a full time day job to support myself, I will want my downtime, same as you.

The only exceptions are soul calls. If I am called to help someone, it will be free. I do this a lot and I do it gladly. I will tell you if I get the call.

Otherwise, please respect someone’s time and skills. Ask if it’s okay. Just don’t assume. The well only has so much in it and once it’s empty, it hurt the giver tremendously to keep on giving for free. If you feel you’ve benefited from help that’s been received, offer at least to make a donation. Don’t keep on asking and expecting them to keep on giving.

What is given freely is given freely, and I’ve provided an abundance of free resources for people to have the tools to help themselves and will continue to do so. I will gladly point you towards them. Otherwise, please respect mine and others time.

Thank you.


Just an additional comment….

I had posted this on my Facebook group and a lady called Shannon Maree Routledge said what I am trying to say in better way.
As an empath I do not do linear 3D time well and I’m not money motivated… I’m a soul call and Gary responded to me at a crucial point where I was in deep darkness and despair… I did not ask or expect, Gary was drawn for reasons we now know but I won’t go into here… His compassion and generosity saved my life that day 💙 if I had the gift that Gary has, I too would find myself in the same position, torn between understanding the importance of energy exchange yet my heart would win out knowing I could help alleviate another’s suffering… 
When we begin to understand energy, we understand consequences! When a healer who’s driven by compassion and love for humanity isn’t reciprocated via energy exchange, the healer suffers and becomes depleted and vulnerable to psychic attack to attempt to stop them from helping others…
However, there is a flip side that the people who expect, demand or feel entitled to free services, are unaware that when they receive “free” sessions, and do not reciprocate via energy exchange, there are also consequences that hurt the client as they are in the frequency of taking and that keeps their frequency low and open to psychic attacks and blocks growth and progress and most will use seemingly free sessions to also spiritually bypass as they jump from healer to healer from the ego wanting to hear what the ego wants and in the process creating more pain and destruction to the spirit…
Gary is not writing from a “poor me” perspective, when someone is a natural healer and giver, it’s hard to comprehend the taker-entitled mindset… When someone comprehends how energy works, it’s easy to see the damage that is being created via the “I want it for free” attitude…
Musicians have a gift that some people are happy to pay out $200 to attend a concert, a healer is no different, they have a gift and deserve the same for exchange of time and service… Gary is open to negotiation in extreme financial difficulties and his prices are MORE than reasonable compared to other healers websites I’ve researched with starting fees from $150 up depending on what service…
So next time you think “what’s in it for me?” maybe change your thinking to “how can I contribute and be of value here?” as I know most of you consider yourselves “light workers” who have chosen to be here at this time to assist planetary and humanities healing 💖💖
Okay, end of rant. 🙂

One Reply to “Just because I can do it, doesn’t mean you’re entitled to it.”

  1. Hey, welcome to reality, honey.
    If you are a musician, people will ask you to play for them for free.
    If you are a cook, people will ask you to cook for them for free.
    If you are a counsellor, people will ask you for free advice.
    If you are an artist, people will ask you for free advice.
    Even, if you are a whore, people will ask you for free love.

    Being an empath does not exempt you from the need to grow up, stand tall, and police your own borders. Respect for yourself, in fact even just survival, demands that you learn how to say “no”, in a hundred different ways, in a hundred different situations, and you just “do it”. Its part of living. Get over it…..

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