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Just because I can do it, doesn’t mean you’re entitled to it.

Yin Yang

And now for a rant…

This is somewhat personal, but written for so many of those good people who offer to help others.

If you choose to take offense to this post, that can’t be helped and you are missing the point.

For a long time now, I’ve noticed a trend where if someone finds out that you have psychic abilities, they will expect you to give them a reading for free. If you’re a healer, they will ask for healing or a clearing. Maybe they want you to tell them how their relationship with someone they are interested in will work out or if it will happen.

Many expect you to drop everything you’re doing and respond. Rarely will they ever ask if you’re busy or if you even mind.

I’ve seen some people become offended, hostile and outrage if you tell them that if they want something deeper, some kind of exchange will need to take place. As most don’t have something they want to barter, money is often the most common option.

I might be a healer (and I know I am good at it) but that doesn’t mean I sit around all day waiting for people to ask me for help.

Yes, I’ve got some unique abilities (as many will attest to) but regardless of what people think, it takes energy and work to get results. I don’t do cold readings. I actually do the work that’s required to see what is going on and do what can be done to remove the issues.

What most don’t seem to get is that you’re not paying for my abilities; you are paying for my time and skills. I don’t actually charge for being able to heal someone or remove demonic beings or close portals. I charge for the time it takes to do so, the resources that are used and the decades of experience and knowledge that were hard gained and extremely rare.

For three decades I’ve helped hundreds of people for free. Few ever bothered to even say thanks though they had no issues in asking for more help when they needed it.

To those who feel self-entitled, I say move right along and see if someone else will do what I can do for free. To expect me to always be there answering questions, clearing attacks and recommending what you need to do is disrespectful of my time. It’s disrespectful of anyone’s time.

People’s skills aren’t free, you know?

You wouldn’t go to a mechanic and say: I hear you’re great with fixing cars. Fix mine for nothing. You wouldn’t ask a doctor to provide his services and medication for free.

Nothing is free. There must be some kind of exchange. In the case of spiritual healing, this is very important as I’ve found that those who do give something, anything , in return, benefit greatly. And to be fair, there are a few who do give in return, and that opens the door to receiving more even more healing back.

The exchange does not need to be money. It can be support, services, helping someone or even the intention of doing so.

Personally, I would love to do healing as my living, but current attitudes make that almost impossible, at least for genuinely gifted people. Ironically, people will spend hundreds of dollars on cold readers and scam artists who are extremely generic in what they do.

Personally, I never expect anything for free. I will always give back more than I take. I will always remember those who have helped me and show my gratitude. If you do me a favour, I will remember it for lifetimes.

If I’m working a full time day job to support myself, I will want my downtime, same as you.

The only exceptions are soul calls. If I am called to help someone, it will be free. I do this a lot and I do it gladly. I will tell you if I get the call.

Otherwise, please respect someone’s time and skills. Ask if it’s okay. Just don’t assume. The well only has so much in it and once it’s empty, it hurt the giver tremendously to keep on giving for free. If you feel you’ve benefited from help that’s been received, offer at least to make a donation. Don’t keep on asking and expecting them to keep on giving.

What is given freely is given freely, and I’ve provided an abundance of free resources for people to have the tools to help themselves and will continue to do so. I will gladly point you towards them. Otherwise, please respect mine and others time.

Thank you.

 

Just an additional comment….

I had posted this on my Facebook group and a lady called Shannon Maree Routledge said what I am trying to say in better way.
As an empath I do not do linear 3D time well and I’m not money motivated… I’m a soul call and Gary responded to me at a crucial point where I was in deep darkness and despair… I did not ask or expect, Gary was drawn for reasons we now know but I won’t go into here… His compassion and generosity saved my life that day ? if I had the gift that Gary has, I too would find myself in the same position, torn between understanding the importance of energy exchange yet my heart would win out knowing I could help alleviate another’s suffering… 
When we begin to understand energy, we understand consequences! When a healer who’s driven by compassion and love for humanity isn’t reciprocated via energy exchange, the healer suffers and becomes depleted and vulnerable to psychic attack to attempt to stop them from helping others…
However, there is a flip side that the people who expect, demand or feel entitled to free services, are unaware that when they receive “free” sessions, and do not reciprocate via energy exchange, there are also consequences that hurt the client as they are in the frequency of taking and that keeps their frequency low and open to psychic attacks and blocks growth and progress and most will use seemingly free sessions to also spiritually bypass as they jump from healer to healer from the ego wanting to hear what the ego wants and in the process creating more pain and destruction to the spirit…
Gary is not writing from a “poor me” perspective, when someone is a natural healer and giver, it’s hard to comprehend the taker-entitled mindset… When someone comprehends how energy works, it’s easy to see the damage that is being created via the “I want it for free” attitude…
Musicians have a gift that some people are happy to pay out $200 to attend a concert, a healer is no different, they have a gift and deserve the same for exchange of time and service… Gary is open to negotiation in extreme financial difficulties and his prices are MORE than reasonable compared to other healers websites I’ve researched with starting fees from $150 up depending on what service…
So next time you think “what’s in it for me?” maybe change your thinking to “how can I contribute and be of value here?” as I know most of you consider yourselves “light workers” who have chosen to be here at this time to assist planetary and humanities healing ??
Okay, end of rant. 🙂
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Our children: Possessions or resources?

Today is a minor rant on how I see too many parents treating their children.

It is said the children are our greatest resources.  There’s certainly a lot of truth to that, and like many resources, children tend to get exploited by their parents or caretakers.

I’ve not had my own flesh and blood baby at this point in my life, (however I did bring up my step daughter from the age of nine for 7 years) so I speak on partial experience and my own philosophy in regards to this subject.

I believe that the child chooses their parents.  The choice is made based on what they want to experience and need to accomplish n this life.

I know that I chose my ones very deliberately in this life. (Though next time I choose to incarnate in this world, someone give me a good swift kick to bring me to my senses!)

What I observe over and over again is that many parents act like they own their children. They feel they have the absolute right to dictate their life.

  • Who they should be.
  • What they should do.
  • Who they should marry.
  • What they may or may not do.
  • If they have children or not.

And so on.

And many of these children are now adults in their 30s!

At what point do we stop using children as possessions and extensions of what we believe our lives should be like?

Personally, I believe that we are caretakers for our children. We do our best to provide a safe environment for them to grow up in, and give them the tools, wisdom, knowledge and experiences so that they can grow up being themselves: Hopefully healthy and well adjusted.

Yes, boundaries should be set and yes, we should be ever vigilant on their activities.

But we should not try to mould them into our image.

In fact, by attempting to do so, you may well end up with someone who is rebellious, neurotic or full of guilt. (Not to mention a high level empath!)

Our children are our greatest resource. Let us be their greatest resource, too.

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My occasional rants: Customer Service in Australia or stop bsing me.

Dick Smith_109For those who don’t know, I live in Australia. It’s been a wonderful place for me to live, though lately we’re going downhill with our standard of living. (Though we still have wonderful conditions.)

One of the things that drive me nuts here, though, is our standard of service.

As long as I can remember, if a sales person doesn’t know the answer, they will simply just bullshit you, and the standard answer is:  We don’t have it so it doesn’t exist.

I’ve had this phrase said to me on many, many occasions, only to walk into a different store and find exactly what I was looking for.

This drives me crazy. Poor product knowledge is inexcusable, especially in an economy that is going south, and a culture where people are buying online because they can’t get the service they need.

This frustrating experience was, once again, ignited when I decided I wanted to upgrade my webcam.

Right now, I’m toying with doing something on Youtube and I wanted something that was good quality.

My only deal breaker was that it had to be able to be mounted on a tripod.

Now, as you may know, webcams are designed to sit on top of your computer monitor and generally don’t have the screw thread hole built in as a rule.

So I walked into Dick Smith on Friday, which is our Australian geek store and they had the Logitech webcams on special for 40% off, which brought the price down to below what I could get them online.

I told the sales staff what I was after, and was told no webcam they knew of could be tripod mounted. So I left to do more research.

The next day, I drove up to a plaza I knew well (Werribee Plaza in Hoppers Crossing), I went into a camera store and was told that they weren’t aware of any tripod that fitted any webcam. That was excusable as they don’t sell webcams, but they also lost out on any sale.

I then went into two stores. JB Hi-fi, and the Dick Smith there and once again asked the same questions, only to be told what I was looking for didn’t exist.

webcamI decided to go ahead and buy one of the webcams anyway. It was a good price and I decided that if worst came to worse, I’d just make do. I bought a Logitech C920 (pictured) and figured I could just stick it to mini tripod with double sided tape or something.

When I opened up the package to look at it, I found that it had the thread hole for mounting. I was thrilled, but once again feeling frustrated with the lack of knowledge and bull that sales people have in this country.

So this is a call to all our Australian businesses.

Take a moment to find out if something you have can do what the client wants. Every time you don’t, you lose a sale and I will not be returning to your store. I would rather buy online, even if it cost me more. 

Don’t claim products can do things that they can’t. That’s actually illegal in this country.

Don’t ignore your customers when they are looking for service. Too many times I have searched in vain for someone to help me.

When you do serve them, act as though you are at least competent or interested in me. Stop trying to fob me off at the earliest opportunity.

Do not bullshit me. I am not stupid.I will find out the truth, and I will never return to your store..

The media has been rife with retailers complaining that they are losing business to the net, and there should be a tax on products under a thousand dollars.

I don’t care if it cost twice as much online. If your service sucks, then I will not be your customer.

Once you had the advantage that we were isolated  on a very large island, and there was no competition.

This is no longer the case. I now have options and I will use them.

Stop whining about being hard done by and start looking after your customers. If you don’t, then you simply won’t be around to do so eventually.

As for the webcam, I am very happy with it.