I’ve covered this subject before, but there are people, who from time to time, find this article and have told me they’ve found it useful.
I thought I’d post what I’ve previously written here for those who have not read it yet.
This is a channeled conversation with the answers indented in italics.
This channel continues on directly from the previous entry.
This I know, though I’m working to keep this useful for empaths in general.
It is an example. For many, death is often a catalyst for growth and awareness. They move into things that they were unlikely to do before.
There is also a belief that we must feel sad for the departed, otherwise we are a bad or uncaring person. If we do not mourn, or do not go through a certain period of time of grieving, then we may feel guilt over it.
Guilt is often a reason why we hang onto grief. We ask ourselves: how much did we really love this person if we can just move on without any sense of loss or pain. How will others view us if we are seen to ‘not care’? How do we see ourselves if we find that we don’t wish to suffer for the loss of another?
Yet, make no mistake; the departed does not need you to grieve for them. Once they reach the light, they are in bliss, and more often than not, the concerns of this world are left behind.
That does not mean they are forgotten, and when you call on your loved ones, they will come and leave many messages in many ways that they are there. Some even will manifest themselves so they can show the ones left behind that they are just fine, and they will look just beautiful.
They are fine. They are more than fine. They are home.
To those who have lost one dear to them, I promise you that you will see them again. You will be reunited, and if you both so choose, you will live more lives together for as long as you desire.
It’s one thing to know this on an intellectual level, but how do you translate this to the emotional level? How do you bring comfort to those who have lost their loved ones? Saying that they aren’t really gone doesn’t seem to be all that useful.
As I said, it is natural to feel grief for the loss of someone dear. There is also a fear that your life may never be the same, and that you cannot cope without them. They may have been tremendous support, or loved you unconditionally, or they may have been the breadwinner.
Fear is one of those emotions that is intertwined with the sense of loss. Fear for the future, fear that they won’t be able to cope alone or be capable of carrying on looking after family or children.
Death is not about the ones who have passed over, but those who are left behind.
So, how does the empath cope with death?
The key is shifting your understanding and perspective of death. Do not look upon it as something that should not have happened. If it was not meant to occur, then it would not have occurred. This does not mean you suddenly dismiss the pain, nor do you suddenly decide that it is irrelevant. It simply means that you are seeing things in a more holistic manner.
Those who you truly love will never truly leave you. They are there. They are by your side when you call, and they are helping you. You may not always feel them, but they are there.
The shift in understanding and perspective is key to coping with the sense of loss.
Do not harbour feelings of guilt of another’s death.
Do not feel that your own life is ending because someone has departed.
Do not fear that you cannot cope. You will always have what you need to make it through, and indeed thrive.
Life is about the growth and experience of the soul, and such things can be powerful catalysts.
For my own comments, I’ve found that Bach Flower Remedies can be very comforting at a time like this.
For instance:
Star of Bethlehem to help with the shock of a loved one’s death.
Sweet Chestnut to help move from a place where you can’t accept someone is gone.
Willow if you are feeling like a victim.
Pine if you carry any guilt.
Holly for the anger you may feel.
