As Empaths, we may often find that we are picking up on feelings that are not connected to us, but misinterpreting them as though they are.
A comment was made to me recently by someone who thought I didn’t like them, and curiously enough, I was thinking the same thing about them.
I’ve realized that many times, over the years, I’ve actually stressed over someone’s respond to my e-mails… or rather, their lack of response.
The problem then becomes, do you try and reach out or do you just let things drop, assuming that you’ve somehow offended them?
Fact is, e-mail (and to a lesser extent letters) are a really horrible way to create friendships, or even maintain them, because life gets in the way.
And by that I mean, we get busy, we forget, or put off responses or worse, miss them completely.
Have you ever thought you sent an e-mail, only to find it still sitting in your draft box months later?
Have you ever read an e-mail, and then totally forgotten to answer it because you had so much else going on?
Have you ever stopping e-mailing someone because they never responded to you last e-mail?
I’m pretty sure that many people have experienced just that.
Problem is that we cease contact because other people have not responded, but the other person might have done the same, simply because they think that you have not responded.
Or they got busy, or they simply forgot because their memory sucks. (Just like mine does.)
I can’t recall the 100s of people who have e-mailed me over the years who have just suddenly stopped doing so without any apparent reason.
Did they miss an e-mail? Did they feel they were bothering me? Did I maybe offend them? Did we misunderstand or misread what was said? Is their reply still sitting in their draft box?
So many ifs, and we assume the worst.
And if too much time passes, you feel awkward about trying to reconnect or see if they are still interested.
Personally, I have a policy to always respond to all e-mails, comments and feedback, even if it’s just a quick Thank You.
If you don’t get a response from me, it means something has gone wrong.
What is important is some kind of acknowledgement, good or bad. At least you get a sense of what is going on.
No answer or reaction is often much worse than any, and generally, as an Empath, you tend to assume the worst.
I guess, the best thing you can do, if you want to see where someone is at is a quick: So, how’s it going? e-mail .
Of course, you might also find yourself stuck with someone who might end up driving you crazy!
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From time to time, I get asked the question on how to open or close your chakras. I know the basics behind it but I’ve never had the fuller understanding or energy to explain it in full.
So, I’m taking the lazy way out and I’ve asked Nattie from Love Light Learn to help out.
Thank you Nattie for agreeing to do a guest post.
Hi to all,
My name is Nattie and Gary has asked me to do a guest blog on closing and controlling your chakras. I would like to thank Gary very much for this opportunity to guest post on such an amazing blog.
Exposed
It doesn’t really matter whether you have become empathic (or developed other abilities) because you have consciously started an awakening or because somehow your brow chakra opened up with out your conscious help. At first we are all a bit the same. Lost. It can be great to discover an ability with-in yourself that is not commonly used. That is until it starts to intrude rudely on your life and leaves you feeling exposed to things you feel are out of your control.
Opened
Your brow, or third eye chakra may open as a defense mechanism because you need it to and this may become permanent, or it may last for as long as you need it and then close by itself. If activated as a child it will usually stay open but if activated for the first time an adult, it will very likely go back to it’s default state and re-close.
Now maybe you opened it on purpose with many of the helpful articles written on the subject of opening. But I must admit, that until recently I was just as guilty of the common problem of leaving the closing and controlling part out. It’s because we don’t know.
Being empathic especially can be a very intrusive ability if you are walking around ‘on’ all the time. Any ability will eventually wear you out if you can’t turn it off. The effects that follow can lead to depression and anxiety. The good news is you can turn them off.
Switching Off
Now when I say turn them off I do mean your chakras but I don’t mean off. Your Chakras are always on even if they work only in a limited capacity. But when you turn them off you are stopping them from receiving outside energies. It is in fact possible to keep them on and just limit what energy is allowed to come through.
We will work on control in a minute. First, closing. If you opened up consciously you will be familiar with the visualizations used to do so. Closing involves visualizing the opposite. Choose an appropriate representation of your chakras e.g. a light or flower are common.
Now opening the flower or turning on the light will turn them on, closing the flower or switching off the light turns them off. I bring my visualizations down to a pinpoint of light to remind me they are always on. Just like with switching on you want to start at the top or bottom and visualize them one at a time turning off.
All or Nothing
It is important that you deal with all your chakras, one at a time. Whilst our connection with others and the source of most of our abilities comes from that third eye chakra, each ability may use other chakras in the process. Channeling also uses the crown chakra (Crown = I understand), I will take an educated guess in saying that the corresponding chakra for empathy will be your Sacral chakra. (Sacral = I feel.) This is is the orange Chakra just below your navel and is also the source of your ‘gut’ feelings.
If just one of your main chakras is blocked or inhibited, the energy flow will be obstructed and the imbalance will result in too much of something and/or not enough of another. You can help to repair them by drawing white light into them from the earth upwards and/or the universe downwards. See what feels right for you.
Colors
Another way to tell what chakras need help and another way to help them is through colors. For years when my brow chakra was shut I was drawn to my favorite color at the time which was indigo. Usually a bright form of dark blue for me. Surrounding yourself with the color of the chakra you would like to heal or open will help. Wear the color and put it around your office and home until you feel your chakra is healed then remove it. Too much will have the opposite effect, opening the chakra and making it hard to shut down, overloading it.
Control
Usually when you are protecting yourself you will surround your self in a bubble of white light. This will help on a larger scale but you can do this to each of your chakras too. Either surround it in a bubble of white light or imagine it is aglow with white light. Then just like you would specify that only positive energy may come through your bubble, you do the same for the chakra. One at a time protect them and specify that only positive energy may enter this chakra as it is protected by light.
Once you have done this you can also direct where you would like to receive your energy from. This is done with thought. You concentrate on the source of the energy you want to receive as in the person or entity. When you are done close them again. The more you do this the better you will become and the more effective it will be. Don’t give up if it is hard or only minimally effective at first.
Visualizations
When you first start to use visualizations, they will be weak and hard to project. The more you do it the easier it will become, the more vivid they will be and the more effective and powerful they will be in the non-physical realm. Any visualizations you use will help to develop this ability and you will find it invaluable in work with energy and the non-physical. Good luck and have fun.
Thanks again
Nattie
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Now, it may seem odd to people reading this blog that I seem to go out of my way to discuss if psychics and the paranormal are real or not, especially, considering that I have named this blog Psychic Empaths. Indicating that I am both psychic and an Empath.
I do believe I am an Empath, and from time to time, I do certainly experience what would pass for psychic abilities.
There are certainly those who will maintain that I am both, regardless of what I tell them. There are also those who put me on a pedestal, which is something I’ve actively discouraged.
The purpose of this blog is to share my experiences and knowledge and ideas and help others benefit from it. I find that many can relate to what I’ve experienced, and just as many can’t. As I cover a very broad range of topics, eventually people will come across something they like.
I do have some hard and fast rules about what I blog about, though.
I need to believe it’s genuine.
I need to be critical, yet open about the experiences.
I need to ask the hard questions, especially of myself.
I must relay my experiences as fully and as honestly as I can. (Which means that leaving out something that isn’t convenient isn’t allowed and same goes for adding in something that didn’t happen, or happened out of context.)
I find this a difficult balance to achieve as there can often be a temptation to fudge things to make things look better, or worse as the case may be. However, I am a purist and while that’s annoying in many ways, it also helps me to be exact.
Personally, I’d like to believe that I am psychic and that I’m a high level Empath, but there are times where I appear to be neither.
I can’t control it and things seem to come in waves. Maybe that’s how it’s meant to be because it’s not healthy to be ‘on’ full time.
And yet, I will always pick up certain things regardless of what I do. For instance, I was picking up the general anxiety of one of my staff, who suffered from low self esteem and had personal problem, and in spite of her excellent work, she never believed in herself.
Everyday I would come into work and feel this so strongly that I started to dread going to work. Thing was that I couldn’t do anything about it. Eventually she resigned and i immediately felt a great relief, in spite of the fact it meant more work for me.
But as I said, I can’t seem to control the empath side. It’s either there or it isn’t, it would appear.
What I try to look for, though, is consistency. Do I get the same results when the same events or circumstances occur?
Surprisingly, yes. I can’t control those events, but when they do happen, there are definite patterns.
For instance, when I’m feeling ‘muddied’ and anxious, my partner will pick this up as a headache, and she will know, even if we’re not in the same room, or sometimes country. She will also know exactly how clear I am, which will always correspond with how I am feeling.
This is a double edge sword, though, because the natural tendency is for her to distance herself from me so she doesn’t become infected by whatever is around me right then.
Consistent results are certainly important, even if you can’t control them.
It’s the reason I use Bach Flower Remedies. I can get very consistent results with them, unlike anything else I have tried. I can use them with confidence and recommend them without feeling like I’m misleading people.
Unfortunately, not everything falls into that category, and it’s the exception, rather than the rule.
Next: Searching for evidence.
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Last post, I relayed my rare experience of getting a prediction that actually came true.
All that aside, getting answers to questions is not as quick and easy as just asking someone. At least, an answer that is useful and meaningful. Sometimes I can, for whatever reason, just see how things will pan out, and they do so as I foresaw, but it can be hit and miss. There are too many variables. But getting information on demand is not something I can easily do.
Now, I have heard of people who get very strong messages to pass on to others, and I would say that fall under the category of soul calls.
I’ve certainly had that from time to time, too. I’ll have a strong pull to pass on a message. I don’t know if the source is a guide, a departed one or just a call for what someone needs to hear, but when the pull is strong, I will always answer it.
Then there are the times when I do get an answer, and it’s not the one I was expecting. Sometimes I’ll get told that the person is making something up and I then feel like an idiot for believing them in the first place.
Even though I can sense truth, I tend to put myself in a space where I’m open to what someone tells me (as I do not judge), though at times, I often get a sense of anxiety when something isn’t right, but I tend to ignore it if the person seems to believe what they are telling me.
The problem then is, what do I say when I find out someone isn’t being truthful with me? Do I call them on it and tell them that they are embellishing their story or do I fade away from their lives?
Sometimes it’s just a matter of people exaggerating the truth.
The point really is, though, that just because you have a guide or you are in contact with a spirit, it doesn’t mean you have all the answers, or even some of them.
Generally, I find that there are several factors in getting correct information.
It depends on:
Your own level of awareness.
Your ability to ‘hear’ what is really being communicated to you.
Not filling in the blanks for information you are not receiving clearly.
Your ability to accept things that are not in your current belief system.
I’ve certainly fallen prey to all of the above at various points in my life. The stories told to me from my guides were ‘dumbed’ down at the time because I just couldn’t accept anything else. Even then, what was told was hard enough to believe (in spite of all the evidence supporting things.) When I received clarification later on, I found that it was the same story, except it was more fully fleshed out.
Sometimes, you just have to admit that you don’t know the answers, at least not yet. Sometimes it might take decades to reach a place where you do and sometimes it may not happen at all in your current life.
Letting go of preconceived ideas and ego can be terribly difficult, especially as we don’t like to be wrong, and we feel our own credibility is on the line. There’s also this odd perception that psychic people can do everything all the time and without any effort. That simply is not the case. I doubt there’s a single psychic out there that can be ‘on’ all the time without suffering severe burn out or will not get very ill because of it.
There have certainly been enough times where I’ve found out I’ve been wrong to make me question just how psychic I might be and just where those thoughts in my mind are coming from. Are they mine, or do they really come from a guide?
But then, I’ve also had really specific information given to me from time to time that I find out later that it was true.
Those are really wow moment for me. Generic information is easy. Anyone can do that. Specific information, now that’s a talent.
Anyone can say: My dear, I see you’ve had some trauma in your life, and it’s affected you.
Well, unless you’ve lived a charmed life that would certainly apply to most anyone. Now, if you could specify the type of trauma and when, then that’s another story.
Be aware of those who claim to be of the psychic world. Be critical. It’s okay to be wrong. It’s okay to not believe. Just because there are fakers out there, it does not mean everyone is fake.
Just remember, this is not an exact science.
But we are always learning, and being wrong is just as important as being right. Look at it critically. See how you felt at the time you received your information. Did it flow? Where there any anxieties? Did you feel any resistance in passing it on? Self observation is very important to success.
It’s okay to say: Yeah, it wasn’t right this time, but at least we’ve learned something from it.
Next: Psychic Empath or Psychic Skeptic?
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I have to admit that I’m a big fan of skeptic and debunking sites. This might seem odd, especially considering that I would almost certainly be a target for them, especially with my pseudoscience and belief in the Bach Flower Remedies. (Which are just plants soaked in water to capture their vibrations, and yet… they work!)
But I believe they not only serve a valuable service, but are very educational.
I feel we need them.
Knowledge and understanding of how things work goes a long way to not being scammed by others.
There are just so many charlatans’ out there. I’m not talking about those who claim to have genuine psychic abilities, but those who scam people and they know they are doing it.
They prey on the vulnerability and desperation of others who are desperate for a sign of lost loved ones or are feeling alone and lonely.
I, personally, would rather such scammers be exposed, and people like myself also called into question if it helped even one person to avoid being pulled in by false hope and losing their money.
And while skeptics tend to target things that are not scientific, I also notice that they seem to somehow avoid things that can’t quite be explained. Maybe that’s because they can’t be really explained so it’s better to focus on those things that can be.
Fact is, things that are faked are easy targets. They can, and should be debunked. They need to be exposed.
The main problem is that most don’t want to hear it. The only ones who seem to be interested in such things are those who are already convinced it’s all fake.
It’s just astounding how people will jump to a psychic’s defense, even when said psychic is clearly shown to be wrong over and over again.
People will defend them by saying that they are just passing on messages from beyond, and they shouldn’t and can’t be held responsible for the information they are given.
Well, I beg to differ.
Let’s say, just for a moment, that these are not cold hearted and calculating phoneys that don’t have a psychic bone in their body.
Let’s say that it’s a genuine medium. (I’m going to be generous and give them the benefit of the doubt.)
Let’s assume that they really are hearing messages from beyond. Are they running them though any type of filter or do they just blurt them out and pass them on like people who pass on gossip or urban legends by e-mail without checking to see if there is any truth to them first?
If not, why not?
Do you repeat everything you hear someone say as fact? I’d certainly hope not. You might not have all the answers, but I’d hope you’d spend a little time doing some research, or even looking at if the information received is even plausible or not.
You might then say, well, when they’re talking to an audience, they’re under pressure to perform and they don’t have time to go and check things out.
And I say in response that they have a truth filter. Their feelings and their ‘gut’ tell them when something is right. They may have learned to ignore it, but everyone certainly has that ability. (And most tend to ignore it!)
In the end, these people are responsible for what they tell others. And while I’m not saying that the person who is receiving the information has no responsibility (and they certainly do) they do listen in good faith and trust that what is being said is really being passed on from the other side.
You would not tolerate this kind of service from someone in a real profession. If you hire an electrician to fix your wiring, and he just stands there and waves his hands around for a few moments, then claim it’s all fixed and charges you $300.00, you’d kick him out of the house.
Of course, as I said, I’m being generous here and giving psychics the benefit of the doubt that they are genuine.
Most of the time they aren’t and are just giving what is termed a cold reading, which is a reading that has generic information that could pretty much fit anyone and more often than not, the one receiving the reading will help them clarify what is right. (This is why street psychics insist you take of your sunglasses, so they can see your eyes and reactions.)
Anyone can give a cold reading and have a very high chance of getting things right. What’s more, these so called psychics know it.
Everyone has a responsibility for what they do and say. No one can sit back and say they don’t. A person who tells your fortune is just as responsible for what they say as the person who is receiving the information and has to decide how true it is for them.
However, it’s still heartbreaking and frustrating to watch people being duped.
Next: There was this one time I predicted a winner…
This is a six part story about a paranormal event that occurred in January 1980. As usual, it’s told without any embellishments and according to a document that I had written after the event.
The next morning as I was going down the stairs, I felt that the chain that the cross was on grow hot. It was an odd sensation. It was a definite heat, though I guess I could have been imagining it, too.
Shawn told me that every time he saw the cross, he had the urge to get me to take it off. Indeed, he insisted that I should take it off. Every time I went down the stairs, I felt the chain get heavy, and the urge to take it off come over me. I nearly once did so, but thought better of it.
A bit later on, back up the stairs, I was walking with Shawn towards the doors on the other side of the room when they opened for him. We walked through and they closed behind us. I asked how he did that, as I had felt no wind. He said, he didn’t know. He was just thinking that wouldn’t it be good if the doors opened and they did.
The next day, the temptation to take the cross off was so strong that I actually felt uncomfortable wearing it. The night, Shawn was trying to make me take it off, once again, and I was refusing as usual when he suddenly doubled up in what he said was an agonizing pain. The thought that I should give the cross to him entered my mind. I asked him if he wanted me to give it to him, and he said, yes. I almost did, but decided against it. With that choice, the pain abruptly stopped. I asked him if he would have worn it and he said: No, moods change, and he wouldn’t have given it back either.
Things become quiet after that for a short while. As I wore the cross, I felt protected. The camp went on and was coming to the end. It was only two weeks, but it felt like a very long two weeks.
On the last day, we were all clearing up after ourselves, and I found myself, ironically, being told to sweep the stairs with Shawn. We discussed what had happened, and I asked him about the voice he heard. I was curious about if I could talk to it and asked some questions. Shawn agreed.
The first thing I asked was if Robert Rice died there, and the answer was he didn’t, nor were his ashes upstairs.
I then asked if this was the Devil. The answer was yes. Had he tried to get me before? Yes, he had and was trying to get me now. I asked, why me? It answered that it had failed before and it didn’t like failing and it was trying to possess me. I asked why me and I was told that I was more vulnerable than other people and I expected him to get me. It also said it had posed as my subconscious mind, pretending to be someone who was helpful. I asked if it was after anybody else at the camp, but it said it only me.
I then asked about the pressure we had felt in the stairs. What was it? He said it was trying to frighten us, and it was a stupid thing to have had the séance. I asked what it was trying to do to Shawn when he said the Lords Prayer backwards. The answer was that It was trying to possess him.
I asked if he had succeeded, but he said, no because he hadn’t done it long enough. He also said that he had possessed many people, but they didn’t know it. They just thought they had a bad temper.
I asked if I was interfering with him and if I was a danger to him. He said yes and I was. It told me that the cross gave me some protection, and so did asking for God’s help, but an imaginary cross was not powerful enough and I couldn’t ask for God’s help all the time and I was most vulnerable when I was asleep. It had decided to use the staircase because I had to use it to get to the bathroom. It had taken over Shawn because he was my friend and was using it as a stepping stone to get to me. It also said that it had blown out the lights.
My mistake had been leaving Shawn on the stairway at that time and telling him about my experiences, which left him open to such things.
I asked a few more questions, but all Shawn was now getting was ‘stop it you bastard!’ I stopped and Shawn came ‘back’. He told me that at first he had let me talk to this thing, but after a few questions, he had lost control and it sounded like two people have a conversation. He also couldn’t remember any of what had been said, something I later found out that this was typical of a channel. He also said that sometimes he was reluctant to answer my questions because he felt he was lying.
With what I know now, many of those answers actually make no sense, nor do they ring true. My feelings are that it was certainly not the Devil, imagined or otherwise. Also, if Shawn felt he was lying, and he didn’t say which questions were lies, then there’s no reason any of it could have been the truth.
I seriously doubt that any of it was true. If Shawn felt it was a lie, then there is no reason to tell me what was really going on, except to tell me what I thought I wanted to hear, and what it wanted me to hear.
This, of course, does beg the question if any channel you get is true.
I know that when I’m writing documents with the aid of my guide, some things flow amazingly well, and I can sense what feels like a connection, or a corridor. Other things don’t however, and I get a sense of anxiety or frustration and I end up erasing what has been written because I’m clearly not either in the space for writing, or the information I need just isn’t available to me as yet.
Sometimes there is also a tendency to write what you think is true, rather than what comes to you, assuming anything comes at all. It’s a trap that’s easy to fall into, and interestingly enough, those are the things that I find out more later on.
In regards to the entity at the camp, I really haven’t gotten any answers I’m happy with yet. I’ve channelled that it was an opportunistic entity who knew who I was, but… that doesn’t feel completely right. I feel I’m still missing something, even 33 years on.
For me, near enough isn’t good enough, but sometimes it’s all I have at the time.
Next: Afterwards
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