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Creating your reality series: – What is Attunement? Part three – Opportunities

The process of attunement part three

Naturally, there are some situations where you literally can’t do anything about. You might just put that down to luck.

For instance, If you are walking and find a twenty dollar note, you can’t exactly do much to locate the owner. (Unless they return looking for it, in which case, you will have to make the decision whether you will be honest or not.)

But generally, you have a choice to leave it there or take it. If you leave it there, someone else will claim it and odds are that it won’t be the owner. What you do is up to you, but there are things that are out of your control.

Every choice we make sends a creative message. What you sow, you reap. What your intentions are will be what you will end up experiencing.

I do find it interesting is that many people always choose what benefits them personally at the expense of another for strictly short term gains.

They exploit, cheat, scam, rip other people off and generally choose to swindle them. Maybe they justify this to themselves by saying that everyone else is doing it and there isn’t any reason why they shouldn’t get a piece of the action.

Also, in my experience, bizarrely enough, when you say to someone: I trust you to do the right thing by me, most people will take this as permission to do the wrong thing by you. They will take this as a message to exploit and cheat you in any way they can.

This brings me to something I’ve come to realize in recent years. When someone decides to take advantage of you, there is a chance that you are there to give them the opportunity to do the right thing and help attune themselves to a reality more in line with their own desires.

You are giving them a gift. They can choose to do the right thing by you (even though it may appear to them that they will lose out by doing so) or they can choose to put their own interests first and pass up the opportunity for long term gains.

Most seem to always choose the latter. Sure they might gain right now, but we all must reap what we sow.

In any case, every time a situation comes up, they make a choice that will create the reality they will eventually find themselves in and never once do they seem to realize that their life is full of unpleasantness because of the decisions that they made.

We encourage these types of behaviours by validating that it’s not their fault how bad their life is and even making them out to be heroes who are battling against the odds.

And that’s fine. As long as it’s what you want. Most, however, do not wish this.

I’ve a friend who goes by a rule he called the 60/40 rule. When there is doubt on how much is owed, give more than you think, that way you have covered yourself. I’ve always considered this to be a wise idea.

Very importantly, what you do affects how the astral levels interact with you. The lower you make your personal vibrations, and the more you attune yourself to lower levels, the more likely you will be to attract the attention of negative entities who may be opportunistic.

Remember, they don’t play by our rules. To them, you are just someone who they can use in the way they see fit.  (Hence the Hidden Astral World series to make others aware.)

So, what choices are you making? Personally, I’m not here to tell you what to do. It doesn’t matter to me what you choose, though it would be wonderful if you choose what is right for you.

I put this information out there for people to ponder, and maybe even decide if they will apply it or not. Most will decide I’m full of it, and that’s fine. I’m not here to live their lives or take responsibility for it.

Next Thursday: Some of my thoughts on Omen’s blogs.

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Introducing the Empath Support Community Site.

ESCFor a while now, I’ve been thinking about creating an empath community.

Yes, I know there are already some out there, but they seem restrictive and having had my membership terminated on one of those communities (why, I’ve not real idea. Maybe they didn’t like the odd blog entry I put there) I felt it was time to give people a place where they can be themselves.

The problem I have observed with other communities is that they are controlling. They will demand people act in a certain way and if you fall out of line, you will be kicked.

I’ve also mentioned this to be the case with chat rooms.

Personally, I don’t see how one can create anything worthwhile and long-lasting if there are so many rules and restrictions in place.

With this in mind, I finally felt it was time to consolidate all the empath resources I have created on the web and centralize it into a one stop shop that people can join, connect and share their own thoughts, ideas and concerns.

For all those Empaths, Highly sensitive people and psychics who are looking for a place to be, the Empath Support and Community site may be for you.

There you will find the chat room, this blog, my empath website, groups, forums, and the ability to create your own profile, befriend others and blog what’s on your mind.

As with the chat room, all you need do is remain courteous and not attack another and you are welcome.

This is an open group and all you need is a valid e-mail address to join.

You can find the ESC at empathsupport.com (the blog will be at https://xeraphax.wordpress.com/ until domain mapping have been worked out.)

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The hidden astral world series – Ghosts – The how-to process – Part 1

The following series of blogs will contain some very disturbing and, for many, frightening information. I find myself in the unique situation of being able to pass on uncommon knowledge.  This is Empath Unfriendly information. Meaning, it may well cause fear and discomfort on an empathic and psychic level.

You might ask, why am I putting this information on an Empath support site? The answer is simple: Many empaths experience demonic attacks and have no clue what they are or their origins. Ignorance does not help. Understanding does. Know what is happening. What you are up against, and always come from a place of unconditional love and trust your feelings when you feel you are heading into danger.

If you feel this information will help others, let them know.

The following is written by a being we refer to as Omen. If you have not read the below blogs first, I highly recommend you do for the background to this.

1 The hidden astral world series – The evolving story.

2 The hidden astral world series – The seeds of doubt

3  The hidden astral world series – Omen

4 A letter of introduction by Omen

Following on from Omen’s excellent description on what a ghost is, we look at the what to do when you pass over.

Omen:

The how-to ghost process (based on my observations)

Finish dying and cross over

Even when the body is clinically dead your consciousness is still attached to it, the brain takes longer than the body to fade and as long as there is still oxygen in the brain it will keep operating up until it’s all used up and after that point your consciousness becomes dormant overall. The ‘cross over’ of data from physical to mental to metaphysical takes hours, you don’t regain awareness until it’s complete. During this time you can and do dream, these dreams are often called the ‘last sleep’ as from that point onward you will not be capable or reaching that mode of awareness again. Dreaming only occurs when there is a distinction between awake and asleep, and as a ghost you will not have such a thing.

Wake up and smell the roses

When you do ‘wake up’ this will be in your body’s vicinity, but you will be separate to it. Depending on the physical conditions you might be able to wander about your own funeral or you might mistakenly think you’ve been buried alive. Your senses will seem no different to how they were when you were alive, you may even ‘breathe’ and have other bodily urges that actually are redundant now. Yes breathing is optional, what a concept. At this point you’ll likely think your still having some weird dream and will not realize you are actually dead.

The realization of being dead can take any amount of time to happen, but generally speaking when you try to see your shadow, your reflection or when you try to interact with anything that is the first tip off to the fact that you’re not in Kansas anymore. Of course, being idiotic most don’t even take that for what it is, instead they often find other ghosts and affiliate with them and enable each other’s denial that their life as they know it is over. Avoiding the truth seems to be a talent of humans both dead and alive.

Time to not forget what just happened

Once you somehow realize you are dead and even if you are in denial of it and trying to convince yourself otherwise, you will get ‘flashbacks’ of your lifetime in the same way living people react to post traumatic stress. Of course it is not always traumatic, it can be wonderful if it is good memories, but my point here is that during these times you are entirely divorced from any reality. You retreat into your mind and work through every morsel of unprocessed data of your life, you try to process it and make sense of it as best you can and come to terms with what matters and what doesn’t. You are reviewing everything.

Next Monday: Part 2

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Running a chat room – The challenges and frustrations.

Empath ChatroomI’ve been involved in chat rooms since I first joined the internet back in 1995.

Back then, it was amazing and new and there was an innocence about it that seems to be no longer present today.

In that time, I’ve been part of the chat community in one way or another, either as a user, a moderator or admin.

Over the years, I’ve seen some very popular chat rooms come and go, including the now dead Celestine Vision chat room.

I’ve learned a lot by observation and seeing what worked and what didn’t work.

When I started my own chat room back in 2009, I knew what I wanted it to be.

It had a very clear agenda and one that has remained faithful .

But running a chat room, no matter what your agenda is a tricky business.

One thing that became very clear early on for me was that no matter what you do, you are always going to upset someone.

Someone will always be unhappy with how you do things.

Someone will always accuse you of doing something or not doing something the way they feel it should be done.

I always found this odd as you are paying for a place that is free without asking for anything in return and yet many act as though they are buying a service.

Running a chat room is quite a challenge, especially one that you want to cater to all.

You have to know when to ban, when to warn and when things are getting out of hand.

You have to choose the right moderators to support you. The wrong ones can create more drama than you ever would want.

People will accuse you of things you don’t do, such as spying and reading private conversations in logs and while one can certainly do that, anyone who has ever looked at a transcript will know just how tedious and horrible they are to follow.  It’s time consuming and if you’re busy or tired, you honestly just don’t care about it.

Chat rooms always attract their share of trolls and know-it-alls.  They are people who sit in judgement of others, come there to cause trouble or feel they know better than anyone else.   People who don’t have a sense of humour and take themselves very seriously. (I always say, never trust someone who can’t laugh at themselves or doesn’t recognize an obvious joke.)

What kind of room you want depends on what your agenda is.

Many fail because they are too controlling and too selective, banning at the drop of a hat.

Others fail because there are no guidelines in place.

Many of the chats I’ve visited are there as a vehicle to stroke the creator’s ego. Those generally don’t do that well.

As I mentioned in a previous post, the focus of my room is synchronicity. That is, people come and visit and find what they need. That might be answers, other people or just a pointer to another place.

My secondary focus is support for empathic and spiritual people. That’s a tricky one; because “spiritual” has a very broad definition and no one can be ‘on’ full time. (If they are, you can guarantee burnout is not that far away!)

I’ve seen people visit the room and complain that there is no spiritual chat happening and leave. To those I say: wait a bit or start your own topic. People will come. They may not agree with your point of view, but if you’re there just to validate your own views, you are probably wasting your time in any case.

One of the things I have learned over the years is that trying to control and restrict things is a bad idea.

My philosophy is:

Everyone is human (which is, they are all part of this human experience and thus subject to the emotions most have.)  There are a few exceptions (Omen, I’m looking at you!) but generally people will fall into that category.

Everyone has bad days.

Everyone wants to chill out once in a while.

Everyone swears from time to time.

Everyone has a time where they want to vent.

There are people who like to connect energetically with people and do more with them on a cyber level.

Everyone has their own particular agenda and interest.

To except people to act in a certain way, especially one that is contrary to who they are and to their nature, is not healthy or logical. It’s a recipe for frustration, resentment and anger.

Giving people a place where they can do what they want seems to be a reasonable thing to do.

To that effect, there are a few rooms that cater for various situations.

As mentioned, people also swear so swearing is allowed, as long as it’s not abusive.

I try to keep the philosophy simple: Be nice to each other and do not attack or invalidate another.

Simple respect and acceptance can go a long way. It’s what makes a room an interesting place to be.

It’s simple in theory, but much more difficult in practice.

I try and handle this by trusting in my feelings. Knowing who is potentially trouble and who is there to find help.

It’s also trusting in the ebbs and flows of the energy. The room will never be amazing 100% of the time. In fact, I think if you can get it where it’s fine around 50%, then you are doing well.

Running a chat room is a depressing and dispiriting experience. You get a lot of hate.  It’s like painting a big target on yourself. It doesn’t matter if you go there or not (in fact, there have been some years where I barely entered the room) people will still hate you. Being an Empath, you will pick up on that hate and it doesn’t do a lot for your morale.

You might ask why do I bother?

I do it because I know there is a need for it and I will continue to do so until that need is no longer, or I am gone.

To those who feel they can do a better job, I say, please go ahead. The net needs more good chat room.

To those who think I have no clue what I’m doing, then I say to them, please go and try it yourself and let me know how it works out.

To anyone who succeeds in creating a chat room that not only works, but helps others, then you have my respect and appreciation.

Thank you.

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The Synchronicity, Empath and Spiritual chat room can be found here.

All are welcome to visit.

 

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Empath Chat room – The room of synchronicity.

 

 

empathBefore I continue on with the current series (which will continue for a few months), I wanted to just to mention the Empath / Spiritual support chat room.

While its intention is for empath and spiritual support, it is, and always was intended as a place of synchronicity.

For those who don’t know what that is (and think it’s only the name of an old record by The Police), synchronicity is about meaningful coincidences that help you along your path.

It was a term first coined by Carl Jung and then made popular in the 1990s by The Celestine Prophecy written by James Redfield.

The interesting thing about synchronicity is that the more you focus on it, the more it happens, and the quicker you move along your chosen path.

Years ago, there used to be a chat room on the Celestine Vision website. Many people came and believed it was a spiritual chat room. It wasn’t. It was a room of synchronicity. Many people found what they were looking for there, and through it all, there were many dramas, turf wars, alliances, and connections of people that lead to long friendships.

I was a mod there for years, but saw the end before it came. I was prompted to create my own chat room, which was geared towards Empaths. Initially, I did this for a then friend, but she did not follow through. Regardless, I kept the payments up and eventually people started to come in and stay. (And one of the people I made a mod stayed in the room for nearly a year before it finally started to take off.)

Today, this chat room is alive and healthy, and receives very interesting visitors.

It’s a mix between dark and light, support and acceptance. People come there and find just what they need most of the time.

So if you’re looking for a place to connect to others, you are welcome to join this room.

It’s a simple interface. (Java based) No ads and need to register. You can if you wish, though.

The rules are simple. Be nice to each other and don’t invalidate another.

You can find the chat room at on my website here.

 

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