It’s tiring. Sometimes you feel like you’re on the same path you were when you first began your journey: Retreading the same old grounds.
Sometimes it seems that no matter how much you do, no matter how much you try and no matter how much you strive to make a difference, it’s all futile.
Being an Empath can be challenging, exhausting and depressing.
We, as Empaths, have a tendency to take on the negative and overlook the positive.
Yes, we do get joy from the good we see and receive, but it’s short lived. It only takes one negative comment to pull us back down again.
Being an Empath is a path that can be both draining and wearying.
There are always others who try and tear you down and invalidate you. There are always those who seem to dismiss all the progress you’ve made, all the work you have done and all the sacrifices you make.
I know it’s hard. I know many are tired. I know they wish they were anywhere but here.
Even I wonder if it’s worth it at times. But I can’t give up. That is not an option. Even when the darkness is at its greatest, I will push on through because it’s all I can do.
I owe it to myself.
And you owe it to yourselves.
Empaths, remember you are not alone. You may feel like you are, but I promise you, you are not.
I know you are weary, but our time is coming.
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It’s another day. Another week. Yet another month.
You wake up. Everything feels the same as it did the day before. Nothing has changed.
How long does this go on?
I’m sure most people can relate to this.
Some call it Mondayitis. Others call it fatigue. I call it weariness.
It’s when you’ve done the same thing too many times already, and you can no longer stand it.
Everything is an effort. The day can’t end quickly enough, especially if you’re at work.
You tend to procrastinate, even putting off things that you do want to get done, but find it’s just too much effort.
Even getting up to face the day takes more effort than you want to expend.
Yet, if something changes, you find that you suddenly have energy, and the lethargy disappears.
You could liken it to listening to the same song over and over again. Sooner or later, no matter how much you love that song, you will get sick of it. If you hated it to begin with, then it will be even worse. If a new song is played, then interest is renewed. (Unless you happen to hate it, too!)
In Bach Flower Remedies terms, this is the Hornbeam state of being.
As Empaths, we seem to be particularly vulnerable to being weary. We take on too much. We expend our energy in order to get everything done, and we do it just about every day.
If you also believe in parallel timelines, where you keep on repeating your life in a Groundhog Day type scenario until you’re happy with the outcome, then you will most certainly feel the weariness as you repeat certain things over and over again (which you become aware of when you experience deja-vu, because that what that is. You have indeed done this before. You just don’t remember it.)
I suffer from weariness a lot. There are many times when I feel like I’m marking time, waiting for things to fall into place so I can progress to the next stage of my life.
Hornbeam makes an enormous difference. Every time I take it, it gives me the energy to get things done and face the day with renewed vigour.
Of course, the real challenge with taking it is that you might not have to energy to find and use it.
This is also a useful remedy for people who make you feel weary.
I find that this remedy work well with Olive (exhaustion) and Oak (when you’re push past your limits.)
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One of the things that contribute to psychic burn out are the requests for help that I get on a pretty regular basis.
For instance, I get frequent requests for help by e-mail.
I would say, they would come at the rate of around four to six a month, and while not very many in the overall scheme of things, each one does take a fair enough of time to deal with as I will answer all mail I get.
Some of them are just thank you for doing what you do, e-mails, and those are always wonderful to get.
However, most are people asking for help on some level.
The type of requests I get generally fall into the below categories.
– People who are in real trouble and need help now.
– People who have genuine questions about experiences that have happened to them.
– Those who want answers to somewhat frivolous questions
– People who want answers to questions that can’t be answered.
– Those who ask the same question over and over until they get the answer they are looking for.
Let’s look at them one at a time.
People who are in real trouble and need help now
This is something that can’t be ignored. Sometimes, it is a matter of life and death, and I can feel this, so I will respond as soon as I can. Sometimes I can help the person in one reply, but more often than not, it can be a long term project until you help get their life turned around. Generally, though, it can be a very rewarding correspondence.
Contribution to psychic burn out: 1-2 out of 10
People who have genuine questions about experiences that have happened to them.
I get these ones the most. People have had experiences they can’t quite explain and are not sure what to do with them. Many of these are things like soul calls or what might be a psychic attack. I try to answer them best I can. 95% of these types of e-mails are one-offs, and I never hear from them again after I answer. As a rules, I often enjoy answering these types of questions.
Contribution to psychic burn out: 1-2 out of 10
Those who want answers to somewhat frivolous questions.
I get these occasionally and it’s generally someone who has some relationship issue that they want answered. As a rule, these e-mails tend to be very long, and (sometimes a little rambling) so it takes more time, and energy to get through it, and then work out what the question is, and what answer (if any) can be given. The relationships in question are about potential ones, and not ones that they are already in.
Personally, I find those types the hardest to answer as I don’t have clue what is going through the mind of the other party. Most of the time I don’t get any answers. Sometimes, I do, but that’s more the exception.
Contribution to psychic burn out: 6 out of 10
People who want answers to questions that can’t be answered.
I get this from time to time and I simply just don’t have answers, other than generic advice for someone. I’ve had some e-mails sit in my inbox for almost a year before I finally get something.
General rule is: If I don’t feel a flow in answering a question, then it’s a very bad idea to force it and I hate giving bullshit, generic answers, that anyone can give.
Clearly, I feel bad when I can’t give an answer because part of me feels that I should be able to, but on the other hand, I’m not the repository of information. Yes, I do get a lot of things that flow easily from me, but there are times when I feel a great resistance, and pursuing any answer will cause a massive drain on my energies.
In fact, trying to do something that doesn’t flow tends to be the biggest drain on psychic energies.
Contribution to psychic burn out: 8-9 out of 10
Those who ask the same question over and over until they get the answer they are looking for.
This type is the most frustrating. No matter how many times you give someone an answer, they will come back asking the same question in a different form. They will also ignore whatever you’ve just said, and also ignore any questions you’ve asked them.
The most frustrating thing with this type of person is that they are demanding, ungracious, and seem to think that you owe them something.
Generally, the answers they need to hear are not the answers they want to hear. In the end, the responsibility for knowing what is going on, or resolving their issues is their responsibility.
The problem with drain occurs when there is no equivalent energy exchange. You’ve put all you’ve got into helping this person, but you don’t receive anything in return.
Contribution to psychic burn out: 9-10 out of 10
Now, being altruistic, I would just love to help everyone all the time and fix up their lives for them, and answer all their questions, but I’ve found that it’s just not possible, at least, not without making myself very sick.
In the end, there is little choice but to shut down for a while and look after yourself.
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I took some well-earned vacation this month. (Hence the lack of blogs.)
As usual, I find that I tend to collapse into a heap, and while the body is willing, the spirit is not.
In this state, even thinking is an effort and answering questions is difficult. It’s even hard to read anything longer than a paragraph, and forget about writing anything.
I call this psychic burnout.
It occurs when you do too much, for too long, without a break.
Personally, I seem to arrive at it every eighteen months or so with generally fourteen or so months where I start to feel the exhaustion.
Psychic burn out is mostly borne of frustration that you feel like you are being used and depleted, and there is no end in sight, or even any recognition that you’ve moved a mountain or two.
People would certainly experience this type of thing in their day jobs, especially if they are good at it, but receive little or no recognition.
If you’re trying to be spiritual, you will tend to resist the urge to say or do anything about it, however, this leads to anger and frustration, and the sense that you are not allowed to let yourself go, and then frustration at the fact that you don’t allow yourself to get angry.
You may even feel like shouting at people who won’t leave you alone: What part of f*&# off don’t you understand? But still you don’t, in case you hurt or offend someone.
In Bach Flower Remedy terms, this is known as a Cherry Plum state: The fear of letting go.
The psychic burnout state is a horribly frustrating one to be in because it stops you from doing what you want.
It literally hurts to try and think about answers or subject that you have no clue about. (I liken it to a psychic knife in the third eye area.)
There are several reasons this occurs, the main one being that you’ve been running on empty for too long.
If you are an Empath, and you are often connecting to others to try and help them, reaching the burn out level happens too easily, especially if the flow only goes one way.
Generally, while the desire to help others is always there, there is only so much you can do.
I find the remedies that help her are:
Cherry Plum: Fear of letting go.
Olive: Exhaustion
Elm: Feeling overwhelmed.
Oak: Being pushed past your limits
Holly: Getting angry, and then repressing your answer and get annoyed every time someone tries to get you attention.
Impatiens: When you start to feel irritated with everything.
One of the complaints from Empaths that I hear a lot is that they often feel overwhelmed by too many feelings and emotions.
So much so, it drives them nuts. It is a very real problem, and causes all kinds of issues, including psychic burnout.
You might liken it to one of those old egg catching games from the early 1980s. Eggs would come from four different directions, and you would catch them. Over the course of the game, they would get faster and faster. Let three eggs fall and it was game over.
Depending on your skill and stamina, you could last a long time but eventually fatigue would kick in, and you’d drop the eggs, normally in rapid succession.
To take it a step further, it also can be likened to doing too many jobs at work when you’re short staffed, or understaffed. Unless you are amazingly skilled, you will eventually hit a point where you suddenly no longer are coping, and just going through the motions.
Mistakes happen and you collapse into a heap, exhausted and sick.
This is what it can be like for the Empath on a daily basis. They are hit by too many energies all at once and they go into a toxic, psychic overload where it literally hurts to even think.
To make matters worse, the people around them tend to get angry that their demands aren’t being met, and put additional pressure on the Empath. If there is any protest, they will ask to ignore everyone… but themselves.
Psychic burnout can and often does lead to long term illnesses and mental breakdowns.
Fortunately for the Empath, the Bach Flower Remedy, Elm, will help with those feelings of too much, too soon, too overwhelming.
When taking it, the sense of panic and exhaustion lifts, and a sense of calm and organization tends to take its place.
Elm is a remedy worth keeping in the Empath’s first aid kit. It also works well with Oak (when someone is pushed past their limits) and Olive (long and short term exhaustion.)
As I’ve mentioned, I’ve spent much of my life under attack. There have been various reasons, which I won’t get into here, but most I have overcome, especially once I’ve tracked the source.
But for whatever reason, I’ve been under pretty strong attacks from 2009 to 2013.
My internet circle has a good deal of psychic people in it, and I’ve a couple who are dedicated to keeping me safe and as it goes, they do an excellent job of it.
However, for the first four months in 2013, the attacks had grown stronger and my exhaustion was to the point where I knew something had to shift if I was going to continue.
Whenever I’m under such attacks, my partner feels it, and she will give me the space to deal with it. Also, the more I am affected, the more of a headache she gets. I’m grateful I have someone in my life that not only understands and accepts me, but knows what to do in order to help and guide me.
As usual, when I’m feeling depression, I take the Bach Flower Remedies, and use the ones that I feel will bring some relief.
They do help, but unless you hit the cause of the feelings, the relief is only temporary. (which is one the main reasons I say they are not a placebo.)
I’m pretty excellent with the remedies, and I can tell you which remedy does what, but there has always been a couple that eluded me on what they did exactly. So I never took them.
The problem with the remedies is that while they are amazing, and do work, not everything is known about them, and I believe that many of the discoveries I’ve made in regards to them were made first by me.
Mustard happens to be one of those remedies that I really never understood. Its official use is for deep gloom of unknown origins. However, several remedies also deal with such things. My guide did mention it was to protect against areas of negative energies, but I never looked into it much further than that.
In April 2013, I had finally reached the point where I was fed up with feeling drained, depressed and full of doubt.
I decided to pick up Mimulus (for known fears) when I accidentally picked up Mustard instead. (They are next to each other.)
As I picked it up, I thought: Well why not?
I took two drops directly on my tongue, and felt an immediate lightening of my moods and fatigue. The remedy also tingled like crazy. (The more you need the remedy, the more it will tingle.)
I walked up to my partner and asked her if she sensed any change in me. She said she felt a lightening of her headache.
I took some more and noticed something shift in my body. It was as though some seed or hook was removed (which may have been a hitch-hiker). A minute later, my partner said the headache was gone.
As mentioned, Mustard is said to be the remedy for gloom. I’ve looked it up, but there is not much that elaborates on that.
I feel pretty safe in saying that Mustard is the remedy to stop psychic attacks and coupled with Walnut (the link breaker), it is quite potent.
My exhaustion lifted that night, and has not returned. I’ve felt confident, strong and full of light.
I also feel pretty safe in saying that this is a really important discovery for Empaths as they are very vulnerable to such attacks, especially those who class themselves as Light-workers.
Next: Other ways to protect yourself.
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