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People say I’m highly sensitive, but am I an Empath?

Anneli Rufus

How do I know I’m an Empath?

One of the most common things I see, when people e-mail me for advice is: Am I really an Empath?

They have looked at all the signs and can relate too many of them. They don’t always fit all the traits of an Empath. There are very few who do. However, they certainly fit many of the major ones, including being told that they are just too over sensitive or highly emotional.

HSP or Highly Sensitive Person is a signature trait of being an Empath.  It means that you react with a heightened sense to everything that is going on around you.

If something bad happens, your reaction will seem to be over the top to others.

It might be something along the lines of having a bad day at work. You believe you’ve made an error and now you feel very guilty about it.

Maybe someone reacted in a way to something you said or did that you didn’t think was positive and you feel bad or even guilty about how you made them feel.

Perhaps a partner or a friend is having a hard time and you can’t enjoy yourself around them because they don’t feel happy. You feel obliged to make yourself miserable so you can empathise with them.

You might even be cautious or afraid to let others know your true feelings because you don’t want to come across as uncaring or indifferent. You will make yourself feel unhappy because that seems to be your best option.

The Empath will feel obligated in some sense to react in a way that allows others to see that they are not alone and they have support.

This is generally unhealthy for all parties concerned because it simply feeds the negative energy rather than healing or helping anything.

As I said, it’s common for an Empath to be highly sensitive.  They take on the pain and discomfort of others around them, no matter if it’s human or animal or even plant.

Generally, if you ask yourself if you’re really an Empath, the very act of asking is a good indicator that you are. Non empathic people won’t ask and won’t even care. They will dismiss it out of hand.

Chances are high that if you ask the question, you are an Empath.

Drawing provided by Anneli Rufus. Thank you.

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Creating your own reality series -: Praying for your own self gain.

praying-463429_1280It is said that no prayer goes unanswered, and if you believe in free will, then that is true.

It is also said that we should not pray for our own benefit.

At one time, I believed and accepted this mindset and resisted when someone suggested that it was okay to pray for ones own benefit. To me, it seemed like an abuse of power and something we should not do, but the more I thought about it over the years, the less sense it made to me.

If our every thought defines our reality, then our life is very much a reflection of our beliefs. Even if it’s the belief that we have no control and there is no God, such will be your experience.

When you bring free will into the equation, (and if you don’t believe in it, then you will experience a life without it, as that is your belief system, hence your free will!) then this means that you don’t get anything you don’t ask for. If you did, then it would be contrary to your free will. If you accept that, then everything that occurs to you isn’t random (unless you believe it is), but a product of your thoughts and prayers.

And those thoughts and prayers create our belief system.

Our belief system is certainly something we cherish and hold onto, and even might defend to our dying breath.

We might feel powerless, but the thing is that all have enormous power, though few of us really understand it and see how our personal world relates to what we are creating.

How many people reading this have heard the words in their mind ‘You don’t know just how powerful you are?’

So should we pray for our own benefit and why don’t we?

In many spiritual philosophies, it’s considered an abuse of power to pray for yourself and generate positive outcomes. Some believe that you must let others pray for you instead.

In the so called new age philosophy, we are told to not acknowledge the negatives and at the same time, you are told that if you use your powers for self gain, you are abusing them. However, we create either way and it seems insane to think that creating negatives just because positives are considered abuse is somehow considered to be better.

People can find much difficulty in praying for abundance or a joyful life. They may well believe they are not worthy or that they will be punished by god or their own karma if they do. (This is also a belief system, and thus, they will indeed experience such a reality.)

Always remember that free will is our greatest gift. It can also be, at the same time, our greatest hindrance when you are not aware that you are creating your circumstances.

We have been given free will so we can create the exact circumstances in which we wish to live.

Unless you wish experience such a state of existence, there really is no benefit to being miserable and living in poverty and depression. If you believe in a God of love, it makes little sense that such a being would desire you to be unhappy.

From my own point of view, if you wish to use your powers to better your world, go for it. Just remember to let every thought and action reflect who you are and who you wish to be.

Life is for living and experiencing. We have the tools and the blessing to do it. So go for it. Be blessed and abundant.

Follow your bliss.

 

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Emmy the Empath – A cartoon story series by Anneli Rufus

I received an e-mail the other day from an empath called Anneli Rufus.

It’s quite engaging and describes what it’s like to be an Empath quite nicely.

Below is a short sample of her work and I encourage people to go check this out at: Emmy the Empath.

 

Certain people are born with the otherworldly ability to simply know, with nary a word or signal exchanged, how others feel. They detect others’ emotions the way antennae detect radio waves: through thin air, effortlessly.

Emmy the empath 1

 

 

 

 

 

In this way, they pick up the unspoken, secret emotions of acquaintances, loved ones and strangers — sometimes even animals.

Emmy the empath 2

Sure, most human beings lack this amazing superpower. Thus most human beings must base their opinions of others, and their conversations with others, on leadenly obvious dead giveaways such as body language, facial expressions and actual words. Oh, and bottles, books or weapons that those others might be cradling in their laps or waving in the air.

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Emmy the Empath – A cartoon story series by Anneli Rufus

I received an e-mail the other day from an empath called Anneli Rufus.

It’s quite engaging and describes what it’s like to be an Empath quite nicely.

Below is a short sample of her work and I encourage people to go check this out at: Emmy the Empath.

 

Certain people are born with the otherworldly ability to simply know, with nary a word or signal exchanged, how others feel. They detect others’ emotions the way antennae detect radio waves: through thin air, effortlessly.

Emmy the empath 1

 

 

 

 

 

In this way, they pick up the unspoken, secret emotions of acquaintances, loved ones and strangers — sometimes even animals.

Emmy the empath 2

Sure, most human beings lack this amazing superpower. Thus most human beings must base their opinions of others, and their conversations with others, on leadenly obvious dead giveaways such as body language, facial expressions and actual words. Oh, and bottles, books or weapons that those others might be cradling in their laps or waving in the air.

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The Empath Guidebook – Now available in paperback.

empath guidebook amazonOver the past years, since I have put it online for free, thousands of people have downloaded The Empath Guidebook.

This book was written by me as a gift to the Empath community and covers an abundance of subjects to help new and experienced Empaths alike.

Many have also asked if this book was available in paperback format. With that request in mind, you can now choose to purchase it from amazon.com for USD19.95.

The e-book is still free for download for those who wish to have their own PDF copy.

You can download the free version here: http://www.psi-zone.net/guidebook.html

You can purchase the paperback version here or by clicking on the picture on the side bar.

If you have enjoyed this book at some point, and think this it’s worthwhile, please feel free to give it a review. It would really help me out.